And soon I realised I was being prejudiced about younger guys. Freud might encourage the assumption that there are a few father issues for both the younger and older man. So older gay partners can become a role model, a teacher and protective elder friend. But the age gap worried me, even though the more time we spent together, the more we got on. They want a good-looking lad on their arm to control them.
But when it came to talking about my relationship with James, I got so much hate online. What do older men with younger partners have in common? With Tom Daley  making headlines for his engagement to to Dustin Lance Black  this year, GT talks to five gay men to discover whether or not we should mind the gap. So older gay partners can become a role model, a teacher and protective elder friend.
Sex was not necessarily exchanged for financial compensation, the older partner offered intelligence and social accomplishments, which are often as strongly attractive to younger partners as material possessions. Immediately you assume the attraction is either based on a mutually satisfactory financial agreement, a daddy fetish or a mid-life crisis. And in some cases, it can find the older man branded a pervert or manipulator while his younger counterpart is dismissed as a gold digger. Why are they attracted to each other?